Wendi: Mom, Alumni, Board Member
Happy Mother’s Day!
I am Wendi Gaines, a mother, a 2008 Door of Hope graduate, and the first alumni to serve on Door of Hope’s board. This Mother’s Day, as I get ready to send my youngest daughter off to college, I wanted to thank you for empowering me to be a better mom.
You have not only changed my life, you have changed my kids’ lives.
When I first came to Door of Hope, I felt like such a failure. All the things that could go wrong in a mother’s life had gone wrong in mine. My marriage had fallen apart. I felt guilty for robbing my children of the chance to have a father in the home. Living in survival mode had robbed me of the chance to plan for a better future. And worse than any of that, I could not provide a home for my kids. I had failed them.
At Door of Hope, I learned two lessons: First, through loving staff I found freedom from condemnation. Second, I learned that life has structure. That lesson has changed my life – learning how to structure my time, my finances, my parenting. Today I am so much richer for the lessons I learned at Door of Hope. I am a better mom, a better provider, a better person.
My kids are all on the right track. My son who graduated high school last year has a full time job and more money in the bank than I do, thanks to the savings and budgeting I taught him.
My daughter will graduate high school this year to enter UC East Bay on an almost-full scholarship.
My youngest son, who has autism, will start the 11th grade next year and was recently hired by the Pasadena Unified School District to provide one-on-one support for other autistic students. I used to not understand why parents wished their kids wouldn’t grow up so fast. Now I understand! But I am amazed to see their growth, and this Mother’s Day, I am an incredibly proud mom.
You have empowered me to be a better mom. Thank you.
Proud Mom, Alumni, Board Member